Swinger explains what you really mean when you say ‘daddy’ in the bedroom

There’s no way of skirting around it; calling someone ‘daddy’ can mean very different things.

From ‘baby’ and ‘honey’ to the likes of ‘dirty dog’ and even ‘sl*t’, it’s not exactly uncommon to have little pet names and nicknames in the bedroom.

But ‘daddy’ really is one that tends to divide people as some love to call it out while it makes others totally squirm. So, who better to explain the meaning of something in sex like this than a swinger?

One lifestyle content creator and resident on the Channel 4 show Open House: The Great Sex Experiment, has broken down why saying ‘daddy’ in the bedroom is so popular and what it actually means.

And don’t worry, it’s not something creepy and weird (usually anyway).

I mean, we've all got our pet names. (Getty Stock)

VistaWife is a ‘Swinging Educator’ and assured people that saying ‘daddy’ is not ‘that deep’, but it’s ‘hot’. In a video, she says you might be left ‘questioning your whole entire existence’ after using it for the first time but don’t worry, it’s not about ‘your actual dad’.

“So let’s just park that there,” the content creator added.

“Calling someone ‘daddy’ in the bedroom is about power, not parenthood.”

VistaWife went on to explain that the nickname is all about ‘trust, control and feeling safe enough’ to be able to just ‘fully let go’ when having intimacy.

Basically, it’s about letting the other person take charge while you, essentially, submit.

“Sometimes ‘daddy’ just hits differently,” the swinger added, “literally.

“But if that’s not your vibe, that’s totally fine.”

VistaWife went on to encourage people not to just say things like this because they feel like they should, and just use whatever you feel ‘safe and comfortable’ with.

The swinger said there's nothing weird about it. (vista.wife/Instagram)

“Just remember, it’s not weird unless you make it weird,” she added.

A sex therapist also echoes VistaWife’s explanation of the use of ‘daddy’ as she notices some men have been ‘turned off by it’ out of fear that it’s an ‘indicator of daddy issues’.

“Yes, ‘daddy’ can mean ‘father,’ but we also use the word to indicate when someone is the boss, in charge, a protector, or doing a good job,” Vanessa Marin told Vice.

“That’s usually the meaning women are going for in the bedroom.”

She added that it’s a bit of a 70s ‘porn cliché’ and said: “I’ve never run across a woman who called her partner ‘daddy’ because she genuinely liked fantasising that he was her father.”