Adult star dated 'six people at once' as 'humans aren't meant to be monogamous'

A woman who dated half a dozen people at one time, has called monogamy ‘unnatural’ and claims it was forced through social construction, instead of a natural affinity to pairing up.

This might ruffle some feathers, because when it comes to relationships, everyone has an opinion on how it should be done.

For those who reject the traditional two-person couple set-up, they can get asked inappropriate questions; they might be judged, or even face criticism for their choice to love more than one person.

But is it a more natural construction than being monogamous? Emily Mai, an adult star, thinks so.

The OnlyFans content creator, has been seeing men and women for some time, be it together as a throuple, or individually.

To her, she says it's a ‘full’ life that way.

Emily Mai dates multiple people at once (Getty Stock Images)

She said in an interview with the Daily Star that humans are ‘non-monogamous’, and that it takes a lot more upkeep to ensure everyone feels comfortable during the arrangement.

Having been into polyamory since her 20s after finding herself being ‘drawn’ to people outside of her monogamous relationship, she’s come to the conclusion that: “Polyamory is natural.

"Monogamy isn’t. Historically, humans weren’t monogamous - it came from people wanting control, wanting to know who their children were and passing things down.

“People have been taught that one partner is the only way. But that doesn’t mean it works for everyone.”

Now, I don’t know about you, but trying to maintain open communication in a relationship with one person is hard enough, but to do it with multiple people?

Emily admitted she’s no stranger to juggling these things, revealing: “At one point, I was seeing six people. Two single guys and two couples - so technically six.”

In this set-up, she said she had to step away from dating monogamous people after it would ‘always end the same way’, with them wanting her all to themselves.

She said: “I won’t date monogamous people anymore. It always ends the same way - they think they’re open to it, then say ‘I can't do this anymore. I just want you all to myself’.”

She says 'Polyamory is natural', but monogamy isn't (Getty Stock Images)

Now, she’s happy dating multiple people – mostly couples, who are ‘busy like me’.

Emily said: “There's no expectation to have each other's attention all day, every day, and I get the best of both worlds with a man and a woman.“

But juggling jealousy can be a minefield in this situation, which is where open communication really works.

Emily said she addresses this by creating three-way group chats, and never talks to the man on his own.

Instead, she talks to them both together, and considers herself as ‘dating both of them’.

Emily explained of how to navigate a poly relationship, stating: “Jealousy is normal and usually comes from insecurity - like worrying someone might stop liking you.”

That’s when she’ll have those honest conversations, to ensure everyone is on the same page.