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A dating expert has explained how a fella managed to ask her out 'so successfully'. Watch her explain the situation here:
Simone Grossman - who works for US matchmaking company Three Day Rule - posted a video on TikTok, which has been viewed more than 156,000 times, in which she detailed how the stranger managed to secure her number.
Explaining how Canadian Martin got it so right (that's not his name by the way, he's a Canadian called Martin), she said: "So I actually had a stranger ask me out today in the park and I want to talk about why he did it so successfully.
"So I'm sitting in this park by a lake waiting for my friend to come and this guy comes up to me and stays about eight feet from me the entire interaction.
"I didn't feel uncomfortable. I felt like he was respecting my personal space.
"He wasn't presumptuous in any way.
"His opening line to me was a comment about something particular in my energy, rather than a comment on my body, or physical whatever."
You got that then? Keep your distance - and 'nice energy' is better than a comment on someone's physical appearance.
She continued: "Also his opener - or intro - gave me an out, so that if I felt like I didn't want to talk, he wasn't pressuring me and gave me a polite exit.
"He also waited until my friend came before he asked for my number, which again is a really lovely move, because it further alleviated any pressure that I might have felt
"And I'm sure he intuitively knew that I'd feel safer telling him 'yes' or 'no' because my friend was there to like witness the whole thing."
She concluded: "You obviously don't have to do this step by step when you want to ask a stranger out, but this is just like a real world example of someone who did."
So don't lay it on too thick, chaps - no one likes pressure.
Simone didn't actually clarify whether or not they're gonna go on a date, but either way, people were grateful for Martin's shining example.
One person commented: "Thanks for the advice! I've been thinking about doing the same for over a month now but I still haven't, partly not to make someone feel uncomfortable."
Another said: "I hope both sides of his pillow are cold, we need more people like this in the world."
Featured Image Credit: Three Day Rule
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