Relationship expert reveals the 3 toxic phrases you should never say to your partner

A relationship expert claims these three phrases could be hurting your partner without realising it.

While it is perfectly normal to argue in a relationship, some words could be more damaging than others.

"It's human nature to take things for granted. Unfortunately, the same thing happens in our intimate relationships, where we can lose sight of just how precious and special our partners are to us," said psychologist and author Jeffrey Bernstein.

"Following are some observations I often make in couples that come to see me for couples counseling, specifically related to letting their guard down and treating each other poorly."

Writing for Psychology Today, he explained that 'relationships can be repaired and thrive' by keeping things 'respectful'.

However, Bernstein warned that 'if the following three types of behaviors become problematic patterns, most relationships are doomed to fail'.

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'You’re overreacting'

The counselor provided an example about one of his client's whose relationship ended several months after the phrase 'you're overreacting' became a regular.

“A few years ago, Lisa came to see me because she was struggling in her marriage with Aaron,” he explained.

“She said, ‘In the earlier days, Aaron would tell me he was crazy about me, but in the last couple of years, all he does is tell me I’m crazy when I try to talk to him about important things in our relationship'.

"A few months later, I received a crisis call from Aaron, whom I had only met once. Aaron begged to come in with Lisa. Lisa begrudgingly agreed to the session.

"She was ice cold to Aaron as he lay outstretched on the floor in my office. Lisa was resolute, 'I'm done!'. Their relationship was over."

'It’s no big deal'

A relationship expert claims these three phrases could be hurting your partner (Getty Stock Images)

Bernstein noted that 'such responses can feel dismissive and lead to your partner feeling judged'.

He suggested that 'keeping score' of when your partner makes a mistake and constantly bringing it up 'breeds resentment and power struggles'.

"Being wedded to a mental tally of things like who apologised last, initiated intimacy, or picked up around the house breeds resentment and power struggles," he added.

You’re too sensitive

Calling someone 'too sensitive' and then 'stonewalling' them after 'can feel maddening', Bernstein claims.

"Typical stonewalling means shutting down and refusing to communicate. Given that the hallmark of any healthy relationship is the ability to have calm, constructive conversations, stonewalling does not bode well for any relationship's future," he said.

If after reading this you feel these phrases make too many appearances in arguments with your partner, it might be time to address them.